Before I was a parent, I used to wander what could be so hard about it. Of course I understood that there would be difficult times but I would arrogantly look at some little, snotty-nosed kid throwing a tantrum in the middle of Wal-Mart because their parent wouldn't buy them a Snickers at check out and think to myself, "Control your child!".
Fast forward and now I have three children of my own and I am quite sure that the twenty-somethings are looking at me like, "Lady, make that kid shut up!". I cannot stand out of control children or parents who don't actually parent.
I have to be honest here, though, sometimes I am out of my league and over-powered by the three kids. My current problem lies with the two-year-old and six-year-old and their constant bickering and fighting with each other. I am not so naive as to think that they are going to get along all of the time but I am not exaggerating when I say that from about 10 seconds after they are both awake until about 10 seconds before they go to bed, it is like WWIII in this house. Every sentence, step, movement and breath is scrutinized by the other one and they will find something to comment about the other one. I am honestly to the point where I just can't take it anymore.
I have tried to explain to Kanin that he is six and Gracie is two but he just doesn't understand why she can't do things the right way, aka, Kanin's way. Gracie, on the other hand, knows that she gets under Kanin's skin so she will instigate little arguments and then just won't leave him alone. I have swatted them, I have sat them in the naughty spot, I have made them hold hands, I have made them sit cheek-to-cheek, I have made them hug and nothing seems to work.
I am so happy that Kanin is home for summer break but I don't know how I am going to deal with all of the fighting. How do I "control"these two fighting children of mine? I have taken away Kanin's DSI but I don't really know what to take away from Gracie. She doesn't have one particular toy that she plays with. She loves Dora but doesn't freak out if she doesn't get to watch TV so I don't think that is a punishment, either. Plus, I feel like Kanin should bear more of the responsibility for the fighting since he is the oldest and has a little more self-control.
I'm ok with some fighting that is to say that I understand that some fighting is going to occur but I am really desperate for any suggestions on how to have some peace in this house.